Domestic Violence and Why it Must Never Happen

Studies reveal that one out of 3 women around the world has been abused at least once in her lifetime and most often, the abuser is a member of her own family. As domestic violence has become a common existence in the society, it has been accepted normally by many people. And, the commonness of these activities shows that domestic violence is a very crucial issue and requires a serious attention today.

Domestic violence defined

Generally, domestic violence is associated with physical abusive actions that a person does towards a partner such a slapping, choking and hitting. But, this term also refers to abuse that have several other worst actions that can cause emotional, physical, mental, sexual or financial injury to a person. Humiliation and putting the partner is a form of domestic violence because they might be emotionally and psychologically destructive to the victim.

Busting myths

You know that the fights are normal in a relationship. And due to these fights, the bond between two people becomes stronger. But if these fights cause injury or any worst condition like death of another person, they are not acceptable and need an immediate action.

This can happen with any couple who are in any kind of intimate relationship. It has been seen that generally the women are the victims and this can be vice-versa too in some cases.

Effects on children

Children who encounter violence at home may pretend that whatever is happening in the family isn’t affecting them. But sadly it is. These children feel neglected and are sometimes abused too. The abuse these children have experienced in a very small age may have long-term effects.

It has been seen that these children have very low self-esteem, confidence and respond late to things. They face difficulty at school and studies, they are never comfortable while interacting with a new person. Young adults and have faced abuse, they seem to be violent and exhibit rebellious behavior.

What should be done?

Domestic violence can make anyone its victim, from any religion, race, age, culture and gender. The abusers hold low self-esteem, and resort to harmful actions in order to control their partners or families. So, the best solution to stop domestic violence is “leave”. But, there are many victims who do not do this because they are dependant on the abuser in one way or the other. Victims who have families choose to leave to keep the family complete.

So, my dear friends, if you are a victim and are having a difficulty in leaving your home, then do not hesitate to tell your friends and family members about what is happening with you. Speak up, take some actions and even call the police, if the need be. You are not meant to be beaten or abused by someone, you are meant to be loved and cared for. So, raise your voice today and find the real you.

Why Domestic Violence Hurts Everyone

Now you know that domestic violence is a scary issue. The people who have gone through it or are presently going through such a nasty thing are so embarrassed or afraid that they never talk about such topics. The abuser or the doer has never faced this embarrassment. The point is who will talk about this ongoing violence? This is not something which is affecting two or three people, rather millions of people in the world. Domestic violence needs to be discussed because it has a huge impact on everyone in the world where it is allowed to continue unabated.

Here is an example of a woman who was abused in a relationship. The victim is too ashamed, afraid, guilty or threatened that she cannot even consider telling about her situation to anyone. She has bruises on the outside, she explains away as running into a door or some other inanimate object. Some bruises heal with time. Sometimes she thinks that she is the only one who is going through all this and things might get better with time.  but how is this hurting this victim?

1. This woman is losing or has already lost her self-esteem and purpose of life.

2. Now she has hopes that are all false that things will get better and she decides to stay with all these abusive situations and letting her beaten down till the worse.

3. The productivity work is going down and she is taking too many sick leaves.

4. All inside she is physically and mentally damaged.

5. Her social circle has reduced or is almost lost, and she is keeping herself away from all the ways to communicate.

6. She is facing a dilemma to stay in the relationship or get harmed.

Even after so many things, she doesn’t report this to the police. She is not talking out this with her friends and family. She may think that nobody is noticing all this, but she’s wrong here. Her close ones are noticing, and are concerned about her too. So, domestic violence is not only hurting this woman, but everyone around her too.

Domestic violence hurts everyone including children, women, men, businesses, servants and the future generations too. Nobody is untouched by it. A major section of the victims includes children. In many cases, the children are not physically hurt, but they witness it among their parents, but they are rendered helpless. These children always go through bad mental conditions or are silent victims who hardly care about making friends and don’t mix up easily with the surroundings.

We all should not keep quiet or hope that it will end up day. It won’t till we don’t step forward and speak out and help ourselves, or find ways to help and throw out our fear of getting involved. We need to put an end to this endless moving cycle. So, join hands because it’s time of action.